Some recommendations to heal after marital separation or divorce…

When I was deep in the middle of my grief these are just a few of the things that I tried based on the suggestions of others that helped me to slowly but steadily  feel stronger:

  • Reach deep inside yourself and tap into that inner strength that is already within you.
  • Support support support. Reach out to trusted and caring family and friends, a therapist, pastor etc. believe me the more support you have the better to help you begin to heal.
  • Pray and trust God to help you through this difficult time.
  • Take it one day at a time, don’t put too much pressure on yourself and don’t let anyone dictate how you should feel.
  • Talk about your feelings and what you are going through, it helps, believe me. You may even want to write in a journal, that helps too!
  • Do nice things for yourself, it does not matter how small. In the beginning you many not even want to get out of bed, but that feeling passes and when it does take that time to treat yourself you deserve it.
  • Get together with friends that can relate to what you are going through (once again you need that support).
  • Set goals for yourself, having things to look forward to helps the healing process.
  • Believe that you will recover from this.

Thanks for reading! I hope this helps someone.

I would love to hear recommendations from other women that can relate.

My Story, an introduction…

As I alluded to earlier, life threw me a few curve balls and these are curve balls I was not expecting. After 10 years of marriage I found myself suddenly separated, living alone in my condo with my two children and crying every chance I got and asking myself now what?  It was not an easy time by any means, the pain was immense, I sought support constantly from the people that I chose to confide in, again it was not easy! I was terrified of all the possibilities, I was not sure where to turn. During all that pain and uncertainty I still had to find strength. Did I say it was not easy? I had two children  ages 9 and 12 I had to be strong for and also a brave face to maintain as I went to work everyday with a smile on my face but completely dead on the inside. I was ashamed that my husband had left me (for the 2nd time, there! I said it)  and chose not to share this with anyone at work. One thing I learned about myself during that time is I am a great actress, no one knew at work what I was dealing with at home. I found myself scrambling to find my way and myself, I did not realize how lost I had become during the years of my marriage. Thanks to God and my mother for being my source of strength during that time. My mother listened to me whenever I needed to talk, it did not matter what time of day or night, what a friend! I started attending church again as I had not been to church in many years, I am so glad I did as it helped me to get stronger… I feel like I have so much to share with you all but I will stop here for a bit and give you a chance to share your stories. One thing I must say that I learned on my journey is the more you talk about your experiences, the more empowered you become.

Your turn…

Hello ladies!!

If somehow you’ve stumbled upon this site let me be the first to say welcome! This is my very first blog post and I appreciate you! I wanted to create a site where women of all ages and all walks of life can connect and share their journeys and glean strength from each other in an organic kind of way. I decided to name my site Empowering Ruth because Ruth is my favorite book in the bible. When I think of Ruth I think of a woman who went through many changes in her life and as she was going through these changes she was able to share these challenges with her mother-in-law Naomi who was facing her own challenges as life was throwing her some curve balls as well and the two women was able to draw strength from each other and ultimately enjoy success.