Benefits of journaling

I discovered the benefits of keeping a journal several months ago and have not looked back. Writing in my journal has become part of my weekly ritual. I find it extremely therapeutic and a great way to relieve stress. Whenever I’m feeling sad, uncertain, confused, stressed, happy or just want to set goals, I take out my journal from its hiding place and start writing. I find it most effective when I just let my thoughts flow and write whatever I’m thinking or feeling in that moment. I write until I get all of my thoughts and feelings out. When I’m finished I sit and read what I wrote about, it helps me to make sense of why I’m feeling the way i’m feeling in that moment, it allows me to celebrate my accomplishments, acknowledge my blessings and set specific goals. After I close my journal and put it back in its hiding place I find that I walk away feeling a sense of peace because I was able to take some time for me to express my private thoughts and feelings and that’s the most rewarding feeling of all. What about you? Do you have a journal? How has it helped you? Please share your thoughts…


Empowerment through finances!

Saving money can seem such a daunting task for many but here is the good news, it can be done.  It’s extremely important to have at least 6 months worth of emergency savings set aside, life is unpredictable. Here are some tips and tricks that I’ve done myself or in the process of doing and so far it has worked:

1) Savings can start by getting new quotes for homeowner’s, auto, renter’s insurance etc… many people tend to be loyal to their insurance providers which can cost them money in the long run. It can be well worth it to set aside some time to call around and get quotes, you may be surprised by how much money you can save and get the same or better coverage than you are current getting. Make sure you have your insurance declaration pages in front of you when you call because you would want to compare what coverage the new company is offering you versus what you are currently getting.

2) Set up a separate savings account, have a goal in mind of the amount of money that you would like to save within a specific time period and work towards that goal. Side tip: you can transfer the money that you  save from switching insurance providers , so this way you see the savings. Also, set up a weekly, bi-weekly or monthly automatic transfer from your checking to your savings it does not matter how small, what matters is diligence. Once your paycheck gets direct deposited pay yourself first by having a small portion go into savings and do not touch it.

3) This is one of my favorites, open up a CD (once you have the money) and you can put as little as 500.00 in it for at least a year. When that money is in the CD you cannot touch it unless you want to pay an early withdrawal penalty. After the CD matures at the end of the year add some more money to it, it does not matter how small the amount, 25.00, 50.00, 100.00 or more and rollover the CD for another year. It is such a good feeling knowing that money is there in case if an emergency. Side tip: look for an online bank that pays decent interest and one that would reinvest the interest into the CD so you will earn interest on top of interest. My favorite bank right now for interest rates is Ally Bank. I love to take money from my savings that I’ve saved all year and when my CD matures I just move some of my savings account money into it and roll it over for another year.

4) Finally, as I don’t want to overwhelm you, pack your own lunch to take to work and drink water. Everyday I take my own lunch to work, I take the time to pack my snacks, which typically consist of fruit and nuts and I pack left overs from dinner the night before and if I did not make dinner the night before, then I pack a sandwich for lunch, I also take a large water bottle filled with water and drink that throughout the day. Eating out is way too expensive as it adds up and I’m all about saving my money.

If you decide to try these please let me know how it works out for you.

So, your turn, I’m always open to learning new ways to save and trust me I have many. Please share your tips and tricks….

Thanks for reading!

Know your worth!

It is so important as women for us to know our worth. This week I got to thinking about how far I’ve come since the demise of my marriage two and a half years ago. When my marriage first ended, I was left feeling broken. I was not sure who I was, what I was about, what I liked doing or what I brought to the table. After enduring a season of infidelity and being told by my husband that I did all these things wrong and I had all these things wrong with me. I did not even realize that I believed all the lies that he said about and the negative impact it had on my self esteem.

After my marriage ended I felt lost, uncertain, devastated and did not know what to do next. At some point I made a conscious effort to invest in myself, I think it was after someone asked me what  I enjoyed doing and I could not answer because I had no idea. The last 12 years of my life was spent obsessed in a marriage that I lost myself in. I was on a mission to rediscover the woman that I had forgotten all about over the years. I started to trying different things to see what I enjoyed doing. I went back to school to pursue my Bachelor’s Degree (something I had started a few years before but I never finished). I made new friends, male and female. I started journaling and setting goals for myself. The more I invested in my well-being the more I started believing in myself  and all the things I can accomplish on my own that I didn’t think I could have done without my husband.

While my heart still aches from time to time over the loss of my marriage, I am proud to say that I feel so much stronger now. I know that I have a lot to offer and any man would be lucky to have me. I believe that I am a queen and deserve to be treated as such. I know that I am smart and can accomplish anything. I am proud to speak up for myself. I know what I like and what I don’t like. I know how to ask for what I want. I know what I enjoy doing and most important, I know that I am valuable and he lost a good thing.

The best part of this journey for me has been that  I found out that I love to spend my time supporting, encouraging and empowering other women. I love reminding women to believe in themselves and use every opportunity I get to do so. Ladies, we got this!!!!

2018 accomplishment!

pexels-photo-372098.jpegI did it!! One of the things I had on my to do list for 2018 was to update my resume. The last time I did it was back in 2015 so it was overdue for an update. Since 2015 I have changed my career path, I’ve gone back to school and done some volunteer work. Late last night I took the time to include this information and remove information that I feel is no longer relevant. I am so proud that I was able to do this! Now I’m on to the next task as I seek to empower myself which is  continue working on developing some meaningful friendships. What about you? What are your 2018 plans that you are working on?

What is your morning routine?

Good morning! Early this morning as I was beginning my morning routine I could not help but wonder what other people did in the morning to help get themselves prepared for the day. Before I wake the kids in the morning to get ready for school I get up around 5 and spend 20 minutes to half hour exercising in my bedroom, I roll out my yoga mat and do some crunches, I do some stretches etc… after that I like to head downstairs make a cup of coffee, take my vitamins which also include a teaspoon of coconut oil and then I sit with my bible, read, pray and meditate. After I am finished, I feel at peace and ready to begin my day! Oh, and later before i leave for work I make a protein shake for breakfast What do you do?

The best revenge after a breakup!

In my opinion and experience, after a breakup, the best revenge is to empower yourself. After the failure of my marriage, somewhere along the way I found that I drew strength and energy from finding ways to make myself better. I found it healthier  to pour my energy into my own personal growth than investing it into my ex by crying over him and trying to figure out why and what he was doing. Some things that I started to do for me included:

Donating to my local food pantries.(It felt good to help others).

Volunteering at a community center that helps families. (Again, it felt good to help others).

I went back to school to obtain a degree in Human Resource Management. (My ultimate plan is to advance my career and earn more money).

I also started to talk to other women I met who were going through the same thing about my own story and being a source of support for them, because I knew exactly what they were feeling. It made me feel good to do this and it made them feel good to talk about their feelings.


It’s all still a work in progress as I am still on my journey and always looking for ways to empower myself but I have to say making sure to invest in myself and using that to pour into others helps to lift my self esteem and helps me to grow as a person.

What about you? I would love to hear from others about your own journey to make a comeback!