It is so important as women for us to know our worth. This week I got to thinking about how far I’ve come since the demise of my marriage two and a half years ago. When my marriage first ended, I was left feeling broken. I was not sure who I was, what I was about, what I liked doing or what I brought to the table. After enduring a season of infidelity and being told by my husband that I did all these things wrong and I had all these things wrong with me. I did not even realize that I believed all the lies that he said about and the negative impact it had on my self esteem.
After my marriage ended I felt lost, uncertain, devastated and did not know what to do next. At some point I made a conscious effort to invest in myself, I think it was after someone asked me what I enjoyed doing and I could not answer because I had no idea. The last 12 years of my life was spent obsessed in a marriage that I lost myself in. I was on a mission to rediscover the woman that I had forgotten all about over the years. I started to trying different things to see what I enjoyed doing. I went back to school to pursue my Bachelor’s Degree (something I had started a few years before but I never finished). I made new friends, male and female. I started journaling and setting goals for myself. The more I invested in my well-being the more I started believing in myself and all the things I can accomplish on my own that I didn’t think I could have done without my husband.
While my heart still aches from time to time over the loss of my marriage, I am proud to say that I feel so much stronger now. I know that I have a lot to offer and any man would be lucky to have me. I believe that I am a queen and deserve to be treated as such. I know that I am smart and can accomplish anything. I am proud to speak up for myself. I know what I like and what I don’t like. I know how to ask for what I want. I know what I enjoy doing and most important, I know that I am valuable and he lost a good thing.
The best part of this journey for me has been that I found out that I love to spend my time supporting, encouraging and empowering other women. I love reminding women to believe in themselves and use every opportunity I get to do so. Ladies, we got this!!!!