2018 accomplishment!

pexels-photo-372098.jpegI did it!! One of the things I had on my to do list for 2018 was to update my resume. The last time I did it was back in 2015 so it was overdue for an update. Since 2015 I have changed my career path, I’ve gone back to school and done some volunteer work. Late last night I took the time to include this information and remove information that I feel is no longer relevant. I am so proud that I was able to do this! Now I’m on to the next task as I seek to empower myself which is  continue working on developing some meaningful friendships. What about you? What are your 2018 plans that you are working on?

What is your morning routine?

Good morning! Early this morning as I was beginning my morning routine I could not help but wonder what other people did in the morning to help get themselves prepared for the day. Before I wake the kids in the morning to get ready for school I get up around 5 and spend 20 minutes to half hour exercising in my bedroom, I roll out my yoga mat and do some crunches, I do some stretches etc… after that I like to head downstairs make a cup of coffee, take my vitamins which also include a teaspoon of coconut oil and then I sit with my bible, read, pray and meditate. After I am finished, I feel at peace and ready to begin my day! Oh, and later before i leave for work I make a protein shake for breakfast What do you do?

The best revenge after a breakup!

In my opinion and experience, after a breakup, the best revenge is to empower yourself. After the failure of my marriage, somewhere along the way I found that I drew strength and energy from finding ways to make myself better. I found it healthier  to pour my energy into my own personal growth than investing it into my ex by crying over him and trying to figure out why and what he was doing. Some things that I started to do for me included:

Donating to my local food pantries.(It felt good to help others).

Volunteering at a community center that helps families. (Again, it felt good to help others).

I went back to school to obtain a degree in Human Resource Management. (My ultimate plan is to advance my career and earn more money).

I also started to talk to other women I met who were going through the same thing about my own story and being a source of support for them, because I knew exactly what they were feeling. It made me feel good to do this and it made them feel good to talk about their feelings.

 

It’s all still a work in progress as I am still on my journey and always looking for ways to empower myself but I have to say making sure to invest in myself and using that to pour into others helps to lift my self esteem and helps me to grow as a person.

What about you? I would love to hear from others about your own journey to make a comeback!

Some recommendations to heal after marital separation or divorce…

When I was deep in the middle of my grief these are just a few of the things that I tried based on the suggestions of others that helped me to slowly but steadily  feel stronger:

  • Reach deep inside yourself and tap into that inner strength that is already within you.
  • Support support support. Reach out to trusted and caring family and friends, a therapist, pastor etc. believe me the more support you have the better to help you begin to heal.
  • Pray and trust God to help you through this difficult time.
  • Take it one day at a time, don’t put too much pressure on yourself and don’t let anyone dictate how you should feel.
  • Talk about your feelings and what you are going through, it helps, believe me. You may even want to write in a journal, that helps too!
  • Do nice things for yourself, it does not matter how small. In the beginning you many not even want to get out of bed, but that feeling passes and when it does take that time to treat yourself you deserve it.
  • Get together with friends that can relate to what you are going through (once again you need that support).
  • Set goals for yourself, having things to look forward to helps the healing process.
  • Believe that you will recover from this.

Thanks for reading! I hope this helps someone.

I would love to hear recommendations from other women that can relate.

My Story, an introduction…

As I alluded to earlier, life threw me a few curve balls and these are curve balls I was not expecting. After 10 years of marriage I found myself suddenly separated, living alone in my condo with my two children and crying every chance I got and asking myself now what?  It was not an easy time by any means, the pain was immense, I sought support constantly from the people that I chose to confide in, again it was not easy! I was terrified of all the possibilities, I was not sure where to turn. During all that pain and uncertainty I still had to find strength. Did I say it was not easy? I had two children  ages 9 and 12 I had to be strong for and also a brave face to maintain as I went to work everyday with a smile on my face but completely dead on the inside. I was ashamed that my husband had left me (for the 2nd time, there! I said it)  and chose not to share this with anyone at work. One thing I learned about myself during that time is I am a great actress, no one knew at work what I was dealing with at home. I found myself scrambling to find my way and myself, I did not realize how lost I had become during the years of my marriage. Thanks to God and my mother for being my source of strength during that time. My mother listened to me whenever I needed to talk, it did not matter what time of day or night, what a friend! I started attending church again as I had not been to church in many years, I am so glad I did as it helped me to get stronger… I feel like I have so much to share with you all but I will stop here for a bit and give you a chance to share your stories. One thing I must say that I learned on my journey is the more you talk about your experiences, the more empowered you become.

Your turn…

Hello ladies!!

If somehow you’ve stumbled upon this site let me be the first to say welcome! This is my very first blog post and I appreciate you! I wanted to create a site where women of all ages and all walks of life can connect and share their journeys and glean strength from each other in an organic kind of way. I decided to name my site Empowering Ruth because Ruth is my favorite book in the bible. When I think of Ruth I think of a woman who went through many changes in her life and as she was going through these changes she was able to share these challenges with her mother-in-law Naomi who was facing her own challenges as life was throwing her some curve balls as well and the two women was able to draw strength from each other and ultimately enjoy success.